You want to THRIVE and live in the PRESENT MOMENT. You want to CREATE THE REALITY YOU'VE ALWAYS DREAMED through CREATIVE LIFESTYLE HABITS.You want to tap into that hidden, CREATIVE POTENTIAL that is ready to be UNLEASHED to the world. When your inner voice, your intuitive heart --- YOUR creative genius --- is nourished and pampered, you know you can create profound changes in your LIFE that is the art.
Desiree East is a Soulful Entrepreneur, Certified Master Transformational Coach, Creatively Fit Coach and Visual Artist. Desiree facilitates live creative workshops and retreats, as well as, online art programs focused on personal and professional development. She inspires her clients to create meaningful change in their lives through creative ritual, using art-making as a modality for creative wellness and deep transformation (no art experience required).
I hope this finds you well, and that you've been having a wonderful holiday season. As the year closes, I'd love to hear what creative projects you've been working on this past year and celebrate with you!!
Please comment below and let me know about ONE thing that you are proud of accomplishing this year!
As you probably already know, I've been pretty quiet in your inbox in 2018, as I've been steeped in a creative journey that is close to a year in the making...that being my prosperity oracle deck. It's been a transformational journey in of itself, and one that I haven't shared much of publicly (at least, not yet), just tiny tidbits here and there.
I've been very protective of my project...not in a bad way, but more like the mama bear that I've become...gently nourishing her growth. She's just not ready yet, and I am listening to her cues and honoring the ebb and flow of the creative process...much like mother nature, a process that needs to be nurtured, like a seedling, where there are seasons for germination, growth, and bearing fruit...ahhhhh, the sweet love of co-creating with something that is seemingly 'bigger than you' is one that I don't take for granted.
I will certainly share more of my creative journey when the timing feels right. Thank you for being a silent witness to this beautiful process.
NOW, to the FUN news: You have a new Creative Rituals Sister Circle coming your way!!
If you follow me regularly on Instagram, you may have seen that I've been working behind the scenes to launch Creative Rituals TV in 2019...it's kinda crazy! Crazy good and crazy, like, oh damn, how am I going to DO this?
Because, ONE: My darling little 3yo pretty much still rules my world (which is a good thing!!)
And, TWO: Because, I'm nervous about how it's going to all unfold and bloom!!
With that, I felt called to re-vamp our membership site, so Desiree East Studios is currently under construction mode, and your new Creative Rituals Membership Site will be ready to roll out for Spring 2019.
As I prepare to switch you and all of your lovely creative soul sisters over, please expect a few important email notices in the coming days with login details of the new membership site, as well as, past and current purchases.
If you have any questions, please let me know. As a gentle reminder, I'm shooting to have everything 'officially' ready by Spring 2019, so please excuse the behind-the-scenes mess. Technology is no joke (it's actually very much a puzzle of sorts, with coding language, testing this thing with that thing, and such, but I won't bore you with the details).
Sooooo, once we have all of these left-brain details ironed out, we'll be FREEEEEEE to play! If you’re not already on my list, be sure to sign up for updates here:
I just wanted to pop in and let you know that as a valued customer of Desiree East Studios, I want to keep you informed of any changes that relate to your privacy and security. You are here because at some point we’ve worked together or you’ve accessed a creativity course, signed up to receive information, or bought a product from me. For that, I am grateful we have connected!
More clarity and data transparency: I have simplified the language around the information I collect from you and how it is used, along with explanations of your choices for controlling personal information with Desiree East Studios.
The GDPR is intended to give EU citizens more control, choices and rights over how their data is used and puts forth guidelines for the collection and processing of data for businesses. Desiree East Studios has an international customer base, so I've decided to roll this out globally, so this means data protection for ALL of my customers, even if you are outside of EU.
I hope this finds you well, and that you have finally settled into a nice groove for 2018!
FIRST AND FOREMOST, WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN UP TO?
I'd LOVE to hear what you've been working on, so when you're feeling inspired, please COMMENT BELOW and let me know how I could support you!
I'VE BEEN DEEP IN CREATION MODE TO GET SOME CREATIVE GOODNESS TO YOU
If you haven't heard yet, I myself, have been slowly waking up from the winter slumber and have been working on a pretty deep and meaningful creative project behind the scenes.
Lucky Cat has been knocking at my door and so I've been painting my heART out and connecting with my most precious of muses (who is my beautiful 2yo daughter) and journeying through the world of creating of Oracle Decks. Art + Intuition...my two favorite things!!
And after having coming down from from the entrepreneurial high that was the Fearless Launching Live Retreat with the smart, beautiful and genius of a woman that is Anne Samoilov, I also have other ideas brewing in my head about how we (meaning you and I and our circle of creative soul sisters) could get together and paint this year.
Yes, online, and I'm also thinking of hosting something in person...something along the lines of having a LIVE painting retreat on the coast...ooooooh!
(Did I just say that out loud?...The planning part is still in its infancy stage, so I will certainly keep you posted!).
LASTLY, THE CREATIVELY FIT COACHING CERTIFICATION TRAINING IS HERE!
I am excited to announce to you that I am a new contributing artist to Whitney Freya’s Vision Quest and Creatively Fit Coaching Online Program.
Whitney asked me to film an instructional video for the WATER module of Vision Quest (you journey through the 4 elements in your Vision Quest with her) and I had a BLAST creating the video and sharing my own personal painting practice.
I wanted to recommend that you learn more about Whitney’s upcoming Creatively Fit Coaching Certification (starting February 15th, 2018) and Vision Quest (starting 2.22) by connecting with her in TWO really fun ways!
#1 Join Whitney’s NEW + FREE Life Artist Master Class in her online classroom HERE. This is a super fun and simple 5 Step 5 Symbol Journey into YOU living ABUNDANTLY! I’ve loved it and know you will too!
#2 Register for one of Whitney’s upcoming informational webinars where she is sharing more details about the Creatively Fit Coaching Certification. This was a life changer for me and I can’t recommend it enough!
I will be sitting in with Whitney on Saturday, 03 February 2018, at 11:00 AM Pacific, so please register if you have any questions for me!
So I've been somewhat in hibernation mode this fall/winter, as I have been deepening my intuition and inviting my muse(s) to play with me for the creation of my latest creative project.
It's no coincidence, Maneki-neko (Lucky Cat) has been showing up for me, signs, signs, everywhere, on my radar, knocking at my door. So guess who is going to be my SACRED SYMBOL for this year (though, I’ve already tapped into that energy long before the New Year)?
Consider this a little spoiler alert for the creative process for my new Oracle Deck...I can’t wait to share more with you!
Click play below to see what I've been up to and to see a time lapse painting of my lucky, little, happy feline friend:
The reason why I'm sharing this quote, is because I have been on a quiet and blissful, yet deep and transformative journey with this new motherhood thing.
Granted, it has taken me a whole 2-3 years to finally come back to normal (whatever that means)...well, you know, like finally doing all the regular things, like going out to do FUN stuff...seeing your girlfriends, seeing your career gain traction again, taking regular showers AND glamming up (which, for me BTW, means a tiny bit of mascara and lip gloss...yeah, mama!)
But, more importantly, the reason why I'm sharing this is because I wanted to use this as a reminder that:
1) We are all humans (doing the best that we can do to survive),
2) No matter who we are or what we do (and whether you are a mother or not), each of us experiences different 'seasons' in our lives, and
3) We are always evolving into something new.
Something happens when you try to live up to a certain image (aka 'following The Jones'), where we live in digitally social world where our lives are curated, and if you aren't living up to Pinterest standards, well you kinda feel like, f*ck, what now?
With that said, I've been finally giving myself permission to have some breathing room (like, MAJORLY), as I dance through both worlds of motherhood, entrepreneurship, and being a compassionate, loving wife...without losing my sh*t.
For a desperate moment, I found myself striving to be the most attentive mamma to my little one and get back into the world of online marketing so that I could automate, automate, automate. Tighten up my funnels. Get my systems in place. Show up to all the masterminds. Create new programs. Serve my clients. Support the family business. Support my husband. Be a good wifey. Cook all the meals. Get back to dancing, surfing, self-care...all the stuff you're supposed to do to make you feel like freakin' Wonder Woman (which, I haven't had the pleasure to see, yet, because look how busy I am, people).
You get the picture.
And then it dawned on me.
I never fully gave myself a chance to become a MOM, like really, really, really embrace what it truly means to be a mother. A mother to this beautiful love-child, who wants nothing more than to hang out with me. How friggin' lucky am I? I've got a mini BFF who is truly coming into her own right now, and all she wants is all of my love and attention (and milk).
The first two years of mamahood pretty much looked like this:
Boom. Kirra is born.
Survival mode for the first year.
Hire an amazing nanny the second year to help with the survival stuff.
Try to get back to work.
Try to get back to 'normal'.
Try to get back to the 'old Dez' back (how naive was I?)
Realized that maybe I wasn't put on this planet to be super-stay-at-home-career-mom (all of you Pinterest-worthy mommy bloggers set the bar high)
Realized I don't have to be a super-stay-at-home-career-mom
And amidst the late-nights and self-imposed identity crises, my lovely husband, who truly has been my constant (if you've ever been a fan of the series, 'Lost', you'll know what I'm talking about), comes up with the most simplest of brilliant plans:
"Why don't you just go back to spending time with Kirra full-time and paint?"
Mkay. </insert a million heart emojis here>
All of a sudden, a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders (you know, like when you go backpacking for 11 miles straight in the blistering heat with 27 pounds of gear, and as you stop to rest in the cool-night air, you take your pack off and in an instant you're like, "Man, I feel like Neil Armstrong").
So that's why I've been away. And that's the plan.
To PLAY and CREATE. To fully embrace motherhood with deep presence, ease, and grace...and to take things slooooooow.
With that said, I am going to do this the best way I know, which is making a creative journey out of it.
Stay with me here, I'm switching gears for a moment...
I loooove oracle decks...they are such a fun and easy way to connect with your intuition. Here are some of my favorite decks to use, both personally and in coaching sessions for clients. The Medicine Card decks were introduced to me by a dear old friend way back in my college days...a little over 20 years ago!! (That makes one the more wiser, no?)
I've become somewhat of a closet oracle deck collector, and they have become essential tools in my studio for divine guidance and intuitive art-making.
So, today, I'm coming out of the woo-creation closet (SURPRISE!)
I'm embarking on the journey of creating and illustrating a set of oracle decks. I'm sooooooo excited...this is the closest thing to my dream of becoming a published children's illustrator (that will come later, when my co-author, Kirra, gets older).
This passage has come across my path at the most perfect time, as I have been craving more DOWN time, to work more deeply with my art and spend more time with my little love bug (who will be my most influential muse, I'm sure).
The completion of this journey might take 1 or 2 SEASONS.
It might take 2 years.
It might take 7 years.
But what I know for sure, is that this is something that I have been seeking... to SLOW DOWN and become more of who I am meant to be.
And the best way I know how to do that is through my art.
This is the thing that will help me make sense of my ever-evolving transformation, from maiden to motherhood...because, rushing around, curating a #perfectlife, and trying to fit into a mold of what society expects, as a woman, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, [a fill-in-the-blank], no longer works for me.
This journey will keep me connected to the rhythms of Mother Earth and the galaxies above.
I look forward to sharing this creative journey with you.
It might be messy.
I might disappear at moment's notice, not to be seen for weeks on end.
I might bombard you with nonsensical images or words that only makes sense to my creative mind.
And you might see a glimpse of me that only the closest of friends and friends witness when we are two-bottles-of-wine-deep.
That said, if you are still reading this, you might be very well an inspiration and co-creator in my creative journey, too, so THANK YOU for the support while I figure out my place in the world as a new mama and evolving artist. THANK YOU for being here and for the positive vibes, my friends.
I hope you have been enjoying your summer...it's caaah-razy how fast it's flown by!! I just wanted to give you a special invitation to paint at the canvas, especially if you feel a need to take a break from the end-of-season summer chaos.
Carve out some self-care time for YOU, my friend.
With all that has been happening in the world, this would be a perfect time to take a digital vacay and reflect upon the healing that we all crave in our hearts. I too, have been taking much needed mini-digital breaks. As much as my heart aches, I have been having challenging, yet meaningful conversations with loved ones on how we, as individuals can make a positive difference in this ever-evolving world we live.
Even though overwhelming feelings of [fill in the blank]: helplessness/apathy/fear/anger/sadness/confusion/regret/guilt,etc. might reside in our hearts (and these emotions are quite healthy to acknowledge, by the way...they are significant aspects of the healing process), we always have a choice to live from a place of LOVE.
Your heart is strong and (on a deeper, cellular level) knows peace.
Yes, we are global citizens of Mother Earth, yet healing begins from within.
When we heal our hearts, we become stronger.
When we become stronger, we reconnect with that deep peace within our hearts.
And with that deep connection to peace within our hearts, our LOVE expands, and the world will know peace.
IF YOUR HEART IS CRAVING PEACE:
The New Moon and Solar Eclipse are coming and these energetic events are powerful for healing and creativity. ✨✨
Sign up by MON August 21st and you will receive a BONUS 1-on-1 Zen Coaching session that is perfect for clearing deep emotional blocks.
Doing some last-minute shopping for Mother's Day? I just wanted to drop a quick little note and let you know that I have a special offer for all the Moms (and daughters, sisters, aunties, grandmas, doggy + cat mamas, too!!).
As an artist and new(ish) mom, I know in my heart that having a regular painting practice has been an essential tool and wonderful way to ZEN out and gain much needed peace and quiet in my life. I was thinking of all the beautiful moms in my life and thought, "If every mother had a chance to connect to that CREATIVE and NURTURING part of herself that comes so naturally to her, but doing it at the canvas, as a gift to herself, what a beautiful gift that would be!"
If you're doing any last-minute shopping or would love to send a gift from afar, I have a very special offer just for MOMS If you think your mom would enjoy an online creativity coaching experience with me, please hook her up!! Offer ends on May 13th, 2017 at MIDNIGHT.
I have coached women virtually from around the world, and the experience of helping women create a sacred 'studio' space in the comfort of their homes, while we connect globally has been pretty amazing.
I promise, I will LOVE her up and take very good care of her!!
Please click the link below and purchase as a gift for your mom (and if you want to treat yo' self, please do!!):
Please COMMENT BELOW if you have any questions, and I'll be in touch soon about upcoming painting sessions this summer. Creative Art Meditations was a HIT, so you'll be hearing more about that, too. Have a wonderful weekend!!
Calling all creative professionals who have been on thinking about teaching and selling info products online: If you have been looking for a membership site to host your online courses, the lovely folks at SIMPLERO are throwing a super SWEET deal to celebrate Simplero's 8th Bday!!
I have been hosting my creativity online courses and running my coaching practice on Simplero's membership site since 2012 and have been a loyal client since, because this platform has EVERYTHING I need to run an online business (and I've even used it to register clients for in-person workshops).
Here are the details:
THIS WEEK ONLY, you could sign up for one year of Simplero account at a steep steep discount. AND you get some super valuable bonuses, too.
There are two offers:
If you're looking for the lowest price right now.
And another one if you want the best Simplero has to offer + the biggest discount + the best bonuses.
OFFER 1 — lowest price today:
One year of Simplero Starter plan for ONLY $600 + 2% transaction fees. Normally you'd pay $1200 + 2% if you paid monthly. That's a 50% discount.
Plus you get VA Square' basic Simplero training, which teaches you all the inside tricks that the premiere Simplero virtual assistant firm uses with their clients. A $150 value.
OFFER 2 — the best Simplero, the best savings, the best bonuses:
One year of Simplero Basic plan for JUST $750 + 1.5% transaction fees. Normally you'd pay $1800 + 2% if you paid monthly. That's a whopping 58% discount.
Plus you get the VA Square basic Simplero training as above, normally $150.
AND you get a 45-minute video consultation with a team member of your choosing: Calvin (the founder), Merete, Candance, Deanna, or Sherrie, to help you get up and running as quickly and effortlessly as possible. GRATIS.
This offer is ONLY valid this week, until Friday at Midnight US Eastern time.
And it's only valid for NEW customers, that is, if you currently don't have a Simplero account, or you have one and it's in Trial mode, this offer is for you.
For details on the individual plans and what's included, visit the pricing page.
To claim your offer: Create a new Simplero account (or go to your existing Simplero account, if you are on a TRIAL). Then go to Settings > Plan and Billing, and find the link to enter a coupon code.
Then enter SIMPL8START for OFFER 1 (the $600 Starter plan offer), or SIMPL8BASIC for offer 2 (the $750 Basic plan offer with video consultation bonus).
This is a sweet, SWEET deal. Please, let me know if you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them!! Cheers to getting your creative work out into the world! xo
Let's talk about the idea of detachment for a sec and explore what 'freedom' really means.
Just several years ago, I painted a mandala that I absolutely LOOOOOVED.
And there was this moment in the not-so-recent-past (last weekend), where I was invited to 'Rise Above' with my mentor and dear soul sister, Whitney Freya, and paint my wings (You might be familiar with the beautiful angel wings of artist Colette Miller, whose brilliant work could be seen in cities around the world, for The Global Angel Project).
I was called to paint BIG. As I looked around my studio to see what I could find, my eyes immediately rested upon my gorgeous mandala painting.
The (left-brain) thoughts started barreling into my brain...my ego was taking over...
"It's so prettttty...I don't want to ruin it.
But, I use it all the time for the background, for my video interviews...what am I going to use now??
People love that painting...I always get compliments on it..."
AND THEN my muse decided to pop in for a quick throw down:
"This is it Dez. You wanted to EXPAND to feel that sense of ABUNDANCE and FLOW...here's your chance to practice this on your canvas. Practice what you preach, girl. Go BIG..."
So I'm in the process of painting over this beautiful mandala that's been part of my life...letting go of perfectionism is hard, especially having a designer's mindset, where everything has a specific place, purpose and function.
As a mom (of now a toddler that pretty much rules my life with 24/7 hours of spontaneous wild-child energy), I've been practicing the art of detachment with a whole new set of eyes.
I *thought* that for many, MANY years that I embodied the gift of what it truly means to be laid back. I once had that gift of being ZEN (and like to think that I've still got it).
So in honoring 'what was' and inviting in 'what is becoming', I paint. In honor of a definition of what freedom looked like (externally) to what freedom REALLY means (internally), I am ready to go BIG.
To LET GO of what used to define me and open up to a life that is SO much bigger and meaningful than I have ever imagined.
CONFESSION TIME: I wasn't going to post this video of me, because the very moment I pressed record, I was not at my best...I mean, LOOK at how tired my eyes look. (Someone hand me some sliced cucumbers. Sheesh.)
But, I changed my mind, because I wanted to show you how far TOO easy it is to get burned out. On work. On life. On whatever is sucking the energy out of you.
Burn out sucks.
BUT...Here's the thing. I also, want to share with you how EASY it could be to break away from the overwhelm.
And simply step away from the chaos and into the act of creating SACRED TIME + SACRED SPACE.
To quiet your mind and find peace in your heART.
To take a break from the left-brain commitments and TREAT YOURSELF to the gift of right-brain, present moment awareness.
To just BE.
I wish I had taken an AFTER shot after this video. Following my little meditation and doodling session on the beach. I felt like a TOTALLY different person. I felt REFRESHED, CALM, and had more SPACE in my head to think clearly.
((Ha!! Actually, I DO have an AFTER video of what I looked like immediately after meeting with one of my Divine Self-care Sister Circles thank you for working your magic, Elena Lipson. This is what it's all about, anyway:
I haven't talked about this much (and I've been MIA to make space for this), but I've been practicing the art of putting self-care on my daily list as a PRIORITY.
And it's been life-changing.
Fortunately, I have an amazing support system (business accountability partners, mastermind groups, and self-care circles) set in place to help me in this journey of balancing the art of being a creative professional and new mother...I am EXPANDING in new ways, all directions, different levels, and there is no way I could do this alone.
This is why I decided to develop 'Creative Art Meditations' Virtual Retreats + Sacred Mastermind. So that I could do the same for other CREATIVES that are on the brink of burn out. To connect with my people (that would be YOU ) and PAINT our hearts out. And connect back to the REASON WHY we CREATE the ART.
My intention is to make this process as easy as possible for us to connect, and I'm going to need your help and feedback to make this happen. So if this interests you, please click the link below and learn more:
Enjoy the (BEFORE and AFTER) videos, and please comment below if you have any questions!!
With love, xo-Dez
P.S. For the local peeps, I have been having a pull toward hosting ONE DAY in-person painting retreats, as well as, starting a Women's Creativity Coaching Circle...so, if you are interested in any of that, please comment below and let me know.
Well, it's official. The magic that is 2017 has decided to take me under its wings and help me transition from mamahood to bizhood...weeeeeee!!
I've been clocking some serious time behind the scenes to plan out the year, and I've been kind of obsessed with what I have in the making --- and hope that you become equally obsessed with it, too, because really, I'm here to serve YOU.
It's time for YOU to re-connect with your soul-wisdom.
At the canvas.
Paint brushes in hand.
I'm creating a whole year's worth of NEW painting sessions that will get YOU in front of the canvas, so I'm going to need some feedback regarding what you'd like to see.
What I know for sure, is that it will have to do with using ART + MEDITATION as a regular practice for SPIRITUAL, PERSONAL, AND PROFESSIONAL GROWTH, in the form of personal creativity retreats.
As I hash out the details in the back-end, I'd love to have you by my side as I create this program...my ultimate goal is to pretty much customize this program to your needs and desires the best I can, as I hold the space for your personal artistry in life.
Soooooo, if this sounds like something you'd like to be a part of, I'd love to invite you on as a beta tester. In return, you will provide feedback during development phase (pre-launch + post-launch).
2) You will immediately receive an email that invites you to fill out a PRE-LAUNCH SURVEY. Please fill out the survey (preferably, as soon as you get it), as this will be your ticket to the BETA LAUNCH. Yay!!
3) I will be in touch with you as the details for the 'Creative Art Meditations' program roll out...it'll be like our own little private painting party!!
4) Please take a quiet moment to imagine the colorful insights and soul-wisdom that awaits you at the canvas...ahhhhh!!
5) Lastly, if you have ANY Q's, please don't be shy and POST THEM IN THE COMMENTS BELOW. I'd love to hear from you and see what you're up to and how I could make 2017 really shine for you!!
Have a wonderful week, and I hope to see you in the 'CREATIVE ART MEDITATIONS - Beta Launch' !! xoxoxo
Aloha, creative souls! So, I've been taking LOTS of breaks from the social media, as of late, especially since all of the hoopla surrounding the presidential election.
I mean, I had to. For my own sanity.
Did you hear? Someone actually called me the "c" word for mentioning my stance on racism (my stance, being that I will not tolerate it). *control-alt-delete* So, long sucka! That was the first time I've ever had to 'unfriend' a long-time friend on Facebook.
I also kind of had to take a break from all of the recent cyber sales over Thanksgiving Day weekend...oh my gosh, internet people (although, I do admit I have been guilty of this in the past). You know how in the old-school days, when you would walk out to your mailbox to check your mail, and when you opened it, ALL of the junk mail would just kind of spill out haphazardly into your hands?
Well, that's kind of what my email inbox was like, except it was my brain that was spilling haphazardly out of my ears. SO much information.
And then, all of the planning for the holidays. The shopping, the dinner parties, the travelling, the this, the that, andthe other thing.
So, I've been thinking...why do we do this to ourselves? It really doesn't have to be so busy, busy, busy. Really it doesn't.
If you're willing to play, I'd love to encourage you to, simply, simplify ONE area of your life that might need some breathing space. Remember, it's perfectly okay to gracefully say, "No" to the things that don't resonate with you anymore.
Honor down-time. Less is more. Quality over quantity.
Honor this season of slowing down, turning inward, reflecting, and just being.
(And, of course, I have to add this one to the mix):
Honor your creative spirit. Being creative is the best way to sloooooow down time. It's like time almost stops, when you get creative, doesn't it?
So, if you feel like your holiday nerves are getting to you, here are some of my fave ways to take that stress factor down a couple of notches:
I stumbled upon this gem recently, after getting side tracked from a link that my mother-in-law shared to me the other day (Thanks Lynne!). I thought it was worth a share, and I hope it brightens your week. Welcome to the changing season, sending lots of love your way...
On the surface of the world right now there is war and
Violence and things seem darkBut calmly and quietly, at the same time, somethingelse is happening undergroundAn inner revolution is taking place and certain individuals are being called to a higher lightIt is a silent revolutionFrom the inside outFrom the ground up
You won’t see us on the T.V.You won’t read about us in the newspaperYou won’t hear about us on the radio
We don’t seek any gloryWe don’t wear any uniformWe come in all shapes and sizesColors and styles
Most of us work anonymouslyWe are quietly working behind the scenes in every country and culture of the worldCities big and small, mountains and valleys, in farms and villages, tribes and remote islands
You could pass by one of us on the street and not even noticeWe go undercoverWe remain behind the scenesIt is of no concern to us who takes the final creditBut simply that the work gets done
Occasionally we spot each other in the streetWe give a quiet nod and continue on our way so no one will notice.
During the day many of us pretend we have normal jobsBut behind the false storefront, at night is where the real work takes place
Some call us the ‘Conscious Army’We are slowly creating a new world with the power of our mindsand heartsWe follow, with passion and joyOur orders from the Central CommandThe Spiritual Intelligence Agency
We are dropping soft, secret love bombs when no one is looking:PoemsHugsMusicPhotographyMoviesKind wordsSmilesMeditation and prayerDanceSocial activismBlogsRandom acts of kindness
Our work is slow and meticulousLike the formation of mountainsIt is not even visible at first glanceAnd yet with it entire tectonic plates shall be moved inthe centuries to come
Love is the new religion of the 21st century
You don’t have to be a highly educated personOr have any exceptional knowledge to understand itIt comes from the intelligence of the heartEmbedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse of all human beings
Be the change you want to see in the worldNobody else can do it for you
We are now recruitingPerhaps you will join usOr already have.All are welcome…The door is open
Okay, so travelling in general could be very stressful at times, no matter who you are travelling with and no matter where you are going. Planes, trains or automobiles, kids or no kids, friends or foes, something bad is bound to happen, no matter how minor or major the incident. Travel incidents just come with the travel package, right?
Well, let me tell you, the first two days were hell. Ironically, it was not because we had a baby in tow. In fact, Kirra did soooooo well at the airport waiting in long lines, plodding through TSA, and she was a champ (in my eyes) on the flights to and from Hawaii. She got a little restless toward the end of our flights, but who doesn't? (You should feel my biceps...talk about workout).
TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT:
American Airlines, you suck.
There were no clear signs of where to check-in, nor were there clear, designated fancy red line ribbon thingies. What happened to the fancy red line ribbon thingies??
There were no regular check-in lines to check into. The only thing available were these little self check-in kiosks, scattered throughout the floor, underneath the big American Airlines signage.
"No problem, I've got this shit. I'm a computer nerd. I've done this before, we'll be done in 5 minutes flat..."
The self check-in kiosks were not working properly. 1 out of 5 computers in our line were in working order. There was ONE employee that was available to assist our entire area (which was filled with a massive crowd of unorganized, helpless, desperate souls).
Then I looked outside to the Valet check-in. LIFE SAVER. We tipped our dude $20, worth every penny.
Because of said disorganized check-in lines, we were were one of the handful of people to get on the full flight. I even saw a guy sitting a couple of rows behind us roll his eyes, as poor Kirra started to fuss. In my mind, I was like, shut it, dude. Shut your rolling, judge-y eyes.
Yep. No matter how prepared we were and no matter how early we got to the airport, we were that family.
And NO time for a diaper change.
SO much drama for this mama. Sheesh.
SINKING INTO ISLAND LIFE - BLESSINGS ABOUND
Even though our trip didn't start off as smooth as possible (does it ever?), there is always that moment when you step off of the plane and breath in the tropical air that is filled with the scent of sweet plumeria leis...where everything slows down and everything is ooookay.
We crashed out pretty darn early on the night of our arrival, only to wake up at 5am the next morning to find out that there was a Hawaiian blessing and ceremony taking place on the beach where we were staying.
I took this as a sign, and decided to use this opportunity to introduce Kirra to the ocean water for her very first time, as well as, honor my transition into motherhood. The releasing of being a maiden and honoring my role as a mother for Kirra (which was quite the journey, especially with her wanting only me during the entire trip) was something I've needed since she was born. Some sort of meaningful ritual to make it all legit.
And this was it.
Coincidentally, it was also the anniversary of my beloved furry family member, Moana (my other daughter - no, really) passing, and to add to that, the name of the chant was about 'Moana', and it took place in front of the iconic Moana Surfrider resort. Whaaaaaaaat?
I swear, I didn't plan it that way.
And the funny thing is, is that Brendon and I have always believed that our dog, Moana, was the one who sent Baby Kirra to us. That, my friends, is yet, another story.
This beautiful "Ho 'ala" (or awakening) was a Hawaiian ceremony of renewal of mind, body, and spirit, and it took place at sunrise, facing Diamond Head. It was a practice of getting into the correct mind-space, cleansing body, mind, and spirit, focusing our minds toward a future, filled with renewed vitality, hope, and happiness.
An ocean blessing of sorts.
Kirra loooooooooved the ocean water, and she had a big grin on her face when we took her past the shore break. It was such a special moment. Of course, we didn't get it on video or capture any photos, but it was definitely memorable.
At Dusk. Quiet. Still.
Diamond Head in the background.
Perfectly peaceful, as we chanted toward the sunrise:
E ALA E
E ALA E
KA LĀ I KAHIKINA
Awake! The sun is in the East
I KA MOANA
KA MOANA HOHONU
At the ocean, the deep ocean
PI'I KA LEWA
KA LEWA NU'U
Climb to the heavens, highest heaven
AIA KA LĀ
E ALA E!
In the East, there is the sun, arise, awake!
So, there was a point during our trip where Brendon and I decided to stop trying to plan and control every single second of our vacation time (because, naturally, that's what we had been doing all along to make the vacation happen, right?!).
Let go of needing to figure what we needed to do next.
Let go of figuring out where to eat and when should we eat and what time should we eat and what about the baby?
So much pressure, man.
And once I decided to consciously let go of control (damn post-partum OCD. There is such a thing, isn't there??), all was good in the Hawaiian hood.
And I applied that to tending to Kirra the entire trip, too. Letting go of having to be the perfect vacation mommy. Letting go of having to be the perfect vacation wife.
And my, oh my. Everything just fell into place as easily as it could in paradise.
FAST FORWARD A FEW DAYS
As I was sitting on my surfboard, salt water dripping from eyelashes and onto my lips, a dear friend and beautiful surf sister that I've known for many years gently shared this little piece of a truth-bomb that was given to her from another friend, on being a mom:
"Your life is no longer your own..."
What? Ouch!No, no, no. La, la, la,la, la, la, la...
"I know, how depressing, huh?" Thank god she shared the same sentiment as me.
I really didn't want to hear that, and my instant inward, silent reaction (being a life coach and all) was, "Pfffffft...there you have it, another limiting belief, disguised as wisdom, promising to hold me back from doing all of the things I want to do in my life."
But the truth was that I had only a small window of time to paddle out and enjoy my very first surf session since I became pregnant with Kirra. And the truth was, was that I was thinking of Kirra every single second I was out there.
What was she doing?
Is she playing with Daddy?
I hope she's not crying.
Is she having fun?
I missssss her.
And, it was true. I have been admittedly been playing this game of denial with my former maiden-self for quite some time now. "What?? My life isn't going to change that much. I wish people would stop telling me my life is going to change. Bah, humbug. Not happening over here. Because, see look: #TRAVELLINGWITHBABY"
And then, my break-time was up.
Long gone are the surf sessions that lasted for 2 hours at a time.
Long gone are the surf sessions that had me staring off blankly into the horizon with no care in the world.
Long gone are the surf sessions where both Brendon and I could surf together, wherever and whenever we want.
Long gone are the carefully planned surf sessions, perfectly synced with the tides, the wind, and the swells formed from stormy seas thousands of miles of away.
Yes, this is all true. BUT, it doesn't mean I have to give up the things that I love and stop doing the things that make me feel complete. Otherwise, I will really go insane. And that is not good for me. Nor for Brendon. Or for the Baby.
So, let's reframe this, shall we? ('Reframing' is an example of a pretty awesomely simple coaching technique, where we change the meaning of an unwanted situation in order to gain a more positive perspective on the outcome...incredibly useful stuff, if you're feeling stuck!)
MY LIFE IS STILL MY OWN AND NOW I GET TO SHARE ITS BEAUTY WITH MY LITTLE BABE
The flip side to this new mamahood thing is a whole 'nother world that has opened up in tremendous ways. New ways of being. New ways of seeing. Now I get to share my love of life, of travel, of the vast ocean and its blessings, with my little girl. I have a whole new perspective of ocean-life from the eyes of a child. And it has been magnificent. And soooooo much FUN!! So much laughter (Kirra is a really funny baby, guys!) And the LOVE, I can't even to begin to measure.
As soon as I got home, I had a conference call scheduled with my fellow Creatively Fit Coach Team members. And it was just what I needed to seal the deal of this whole transforming into motherhood thing (although, I suppose it never really is a process that ever ends, is it?)
In speaking with my colleagues, something kept ringing in my ears loud and clear:
So, as a new mom (and your Creatively Fit Coach), I'm going to practice what I preach and go back to the canvas and commit to my personal painting practice for four months straight. So I could allow myself to re-connect with myself.
To make time for me (selfishly, how dare I do such a thing, that thing they call self-care?!)
To connect with creative, kind souls (are you ready?)
To connect with mother nature (I hear the ocean waves calling to me as I erratically type)
And to just beeeeeeee...FREE, INDEPENDENT, SELF-EXPRESSIVE and LOOOOOOOVED!
AND, I'm going to commit to my creative coaching practice and my clients, my people, I miss youuuuu!! Whew...cheers and big MAHALOS for sticking with me through my transformation. I hope to support you with the same.